Awkward stage between friends and dating

02-Nov-2016 08:19

There is a stage at the beginning of a serious commitment that I like to call 'relationship limbo'. But I'm also seeing someone, but we're not in a relationship. I don't even really understand my own life right now. But I'm too afraid to scare you away so I'll say nada and kind of hope for the best, I guess.

It's where you both haven't had the 'DTR (define the relationship) talk' yet about where the relationship is going or what exact title is on the relationship.

*Avoid eye contact* 'Ohhh, look let's pretend I got a text.' I'm curious. For God sake, we could have just saved the mushy shit for at home, now people are prodding us with questions and to be honest, I don't know how to answer them...

Half wave, put the head down and keep walking to avoid the awkward questions.

All right, so since I don’t really see this talked about a lot, I figured I’d try writing something about it. Boyfriends, girlfriends, first dates- they all fell into this category of “romantic interest.” There was usually a lot of pursuit, with the pursuer being nervous or shy, easily embarrassed, in that stage of “puppy love,” where the pursued was absolutely flawless.

I want to talk about this “gray zone” that exists somewhere between friendship and romantic interests. And these people usually knew when they were on dates.

Dating is often awkward in the beginning because you don't know the other person very well.

Here's why: People know what the “we're talking” line means, but every talking stage in a relationship is different. You hear a rumor that the person to whom you're talking was seen leaving with someone from the bars; do you bring it up? You don't deserve an explanation, nor do you have any right to get upset. You're trying to discover as much as you can about one another — without getting When you're in the talking stage, you'll either end up as a couple, or you won't.

And for the record, I don’t mean a “friends with benefits” kind of relationship. They got dressed up, there was a lot of obvious flirting, and usually ended with a kiss. And when they broke up, there was usually a lot of crying, moping around, and then they magically found someone else to replace the previous romantic interest. Let’s say you get to be good friends with someone from school or work.

So I watched a lot of TV shows and movies as a kid where dating seemed really obvious.

yeah this is *insert name here.* Who is this bitch? *Stalks their every social media account for hours*.

How do I wish them a Happy Birthday on social media?

Here's why: People know what the “we're talking” line means, but every talking stage in a relationship is different. You hear a rumor that the person to whom you're talking was seen leaving with someone from the bars; do you bring it up? You don't deserve an explanation, nor do you have any right to get upset. You're trying to discover as much as you can about one another — without getting When you're in the talking stage, you'll either end up as a couple, or you won't.

And for the record, I don’t mean a “friends with benefits” kind of relationship. They got dressed up, there was a lot of obvious flirting, and usually ended with a kiss. And when they broke up, there was usually a lot of crying, moping around, and then they magically found someone else to replace the previous romantic interest. Let’s say you get to be good friends with someone from school or work.

So I watched a lot of TV shows and movies as a kid where dating seemed really obvious.

yeah this is *insert name here.* Who is this bitch? *Stalks their every social media account for hours*.

How do I wish them a Happy Birthday on social media?

Be sure to show grace during any initial misunderstandings or awkward moments, etiquette expert Dianne Gottman tells