Been dating for 4 years

11-Jan-2017 11:49

I happen to know others who are friends with them and they concur that there is nothing there.I am at a loss for words as to how to take a stand on this. We communicate openly and easily, however this topic has gone round a few times and I feel now as though I'd be nagging him to leave.Once we separated (his attempt) and it lasted a week!He has told me that he doesn't want to "hurt" her, but doesn't love her, hasn't for some time, and that they are more roommates than husband and wife.We are not spring chickens (both in our mid 40s), so it would be wonderful to share something special for the remaining years.

I let all my embarrassing secrets leak out and completely lost control of myself.I was utterly and uncontrollably, head-over-heels in love. People grow and evolve into who they are supposed to become and that's just the way life goes.That was four years ago, and I have been single ever since.I just want to have our relationship validated; I am tired of hiding and being alone on long weekends, etc.I do love him and he has said the same to me; and we have so many things in common. I was married for 15 years (divorced four years ago) and don't remember ever having felt so right with anyone before.

I let all my embarrassing secrets leak out and completely lost control of myself.

I was utterly and uncontrollably, head-over-heels in love. People grow and evolve into who they are supposed to become and that's just the way life goes.

That was four years ago, and I have been single ever since.

I just want to have our relationship validated; I am tired of hiding and being alone on long weekends, etc.

I do love him and he has said the same to me; and we have so many things in common. I was married for 15 years (divorced four years ago) and don't remember ever having felt so right with anyone before.

“He has been ‘leaving’ pretty much since the day we met.” If someone told you for four years that they were going to take out the trash, but never did — you’d have one stinky stinky house. Yes, he may love you, yes he may be afraid of “hurting her” (AKA he doesn’t want to feel the guilt of being the bad guy), yes he may want to leave — but none of that matters, because he has done nothing to remedy the situation.